Wax Play: Is it for you?

If you’re not familiar with BDSM, it’s likely that wax play is also a foreign concept to you. Wax play is a form of BDSM in which candles are used to intentionally drip hot wax onto a sexual partner, or even yourself, as a source of pleasure.

Although wax play is seen as a more advanced form or play, if you’re interested in engaging in wax play, there are a handful of important things you should consider.

The first and most important thing to acquire in any sexual encounter, especially in regard to BDSM, is CONSENT. Unless discussed prior, elements of BDSM should never be a “sexy surprise” for your partner. Always fully explain the processes of whatever you’re practicing to your partner and make sure you both are fully aware of one another’s boundaries.

Next, it’s important for you to purchase the correct candles for play. Specialty wax play candles are manufactured to have a melting point around 130°F. This temperature is perfect for giving the sensation of heat without leaving marks or burns. Soy candles are the perfect candles for beginners as they are good for sensitive skin and have a low melting point. It is also pivotal that you purchase long, candles to avoid burning hands or dropping the candle. It is important to note that wax play candles are not the same as massage candles, which turn to body oil instead of keeping their wax form.

Furthermore, you should be ready for a mess. Wax play, like some of the best things in life, can be a bit of a mess, especially if you are just beginning. Make sure you have a clear bed and never leave idle candles burning. Applying coconut oil or body oil before hand make it much easier to remove afterward.

Finally, DON’T FORGET AFTER CARE. When practicing any type of BDSM, after care, which can include calming activities like cuddling or light kissing. It’s important to let your body and your partner’s body know that what they’ve experienced was okay and that they are loved. Communication is very important and talking through the experience and what you enjoyed and did not
is very important. This is when you decide if you enjoyed your experience and tell your partner what they can do to help the experience be more favorable the next time.

Happy Dripping.

Disclaimer: Always do your own research any sexual practice you’d like to explore. This article is simply to see if wax play may be something you are interested in.